I have this blouse. I bought it about two years ago. It’s an actual grown up blouse, silky and everything. I brought it home because it was cute and I saw it on the model in the store and thought, “I could wear that.” It has sort of a swirly pattern and it looks very…fun, festive, not quite funky, but you get the idea.
It’s the only thing in my closet with a pattern. I’m not kidding.
I’m sort of a black turtleneck, navy T-shirt kind of a girl. Maybe I’ll get a little nutty with dark purple, but always solid colors. I’m pretty sure I have four of the same white button up shirts. White and black…you can never go wrong with that, right?
Anyway, back to the blouse, it sits in my closet and I’ve tried it on at least a dozen times with different things. The poor blouse always goes back in the closet and never gets to go out. Never been to a nice dinner, or a Christmas Party. Never been on vacation or even out for drinks.
It’s just not me and it never will be. It is so cute on the hanger, but I put it on and I feel…uncomfortable, not myself. I can’t relax with all that business going on and it’s sort of slippery, so I never wear it.
This past summer I hired someone to redesign my blog. I’d seen some of her other sites and they were very cute…peppy. I thought maybe the laundry room could be fun and flirty, so after a rather unpleasant experience, my new blog was rolled out. Soft colors, whimsical bubbles and twirly letters.
It was cute and, like the blouse, I didn’t want to spend time in it. I didn’t feel like it was me or my place. I tried, but it had to go.
So, I’ve redone my blog once again, hopefully for the last time. I really like the new design. It’s clean, the colors are rich and it’s much more cozy black cashmere sweater, at least it feels that way to me.
My loving mother says, “You’re just a classic dresser. There’s nothing wrong with that.” I hope she’s right because I have finally discovered that I’m never going to change.
There’s comfort and acceptance in that.
My thoughts from the laundry room. White Sheets.
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Well, since I don’t know you I can mainly say: if it works for you – perfect. The clothing I mean 😉
Though I have to say I am worried that many people just hide in solids, blacks and whites. I’ve been there myself and I have seen it in friends. In my experience we need to overcome that barrier where we feel uncomfortable. The first time I wore again something body hugging (still solids and dark colours) I was dying. But after having been out in public for a couple of hours the anxiety level calmed down. After that I pushed my boundaries many times, all the way to mini skirt and heels. I think the main reason I hid was that I didn’t know how to deal with the attention.
But I also tended to hide because I didn’t like the girl – girl competition which not only happens with strangers but also with friends. I didn’t want them to see me as competition. But when you are 5’11” and relatively slender with shorter, curvier friends ….
Also I always had my mothers words in my ear “you are just the sporty/tomboy type. All these other clothes don’t fit your personality”. Every time I tried to dress a bit more girly, it almost felt like she was mocking me.
Today I don’t care about those things anymore. I don’t even create a style. I buy and wear exactly what I like. Whether it is plain jeans and t-shirt, the rock chick version of the former, bohemian, elegant or sexy – I have it all in my closet.
So I think, with a nice pair of solid black trousers this blouse would look awesome! If you want to tone it down some more – put a black cardigan on top 😉 (Seriously – who would go on the streets looking like that model? One woman in a million?)
PS: I must have missed out on the twirly, whimsical version of your blog – but all the other versions I liked very much. (In the same sense of the clothes theme: don’t hesitate to be playful and change often. Nothing wrong with it.)
Mini-skirt and heels? Sigh…might need to sit down. Very impressive.
Great comments. I’m sure there’s a fair amount of hiding in my clothing choice.
Part of my issue is I’m not always sure what goes together, but the attention and being labeled a certain way rings true too.
I think I’m at the point in my life that I’m not willing to expend the energy pushing my fashion boundaries, but that’s how I feel right this moment. You never know when my zany could just spring to life.
Thank you so much for reading and commenting.